A Simpler Way to Solve Your Stuff
Emotions can be sticky. Especially when they take a dark turn...
Resentment, anger, frustration- they have a way of winding us deep into a story with no way out.
What if I told you that you can learn to deal with your emotions effectively, without allowing them to hijack your mind and your life. I'm NOT talking about stuffing your emotions. And I'm not talking about some convoluted "emotional processing."
It's a simple method. Only a few steps...
There's a catch though. You'll need to set aside two very comfortable habits and be willing to try something radically different.
First, stop justifying your emotions. Stop trying to rationalize, intellectualize, or otherwise explain your emotions.
You feel how you feel. You don't need a story to make it ok to feel how you're feeling. It might not make any sense. That's ok. Feel what you're feeling.
Next, take full responsibility for the emotion you're experiencing. Emotions don't just happen. We actually choose them. Most of the times that choice happens on a level that we're not aware of. That's ok.
As soon as you blame anyone else for how they're "making" you feel, however justified, you're handing yourself over to the emotions to do with you what they will. You're out of the place where you can affect positive change.
In order to make sense of our internal worlds, we've developed the habits of intellectualizing and justifying our emotions.
And when it hurts too much, we deflect that pain by blaming others. No one thinks they do this. Everyone does this to some degree.
Neither of these habits are helpful in the least, and to make matters worse, they're probably more engrained than you think.
But that doesn't mean there's nothing you can do about it.
Taking full responsibility for your emotions doesn't mean, "I'm to blame, it's all my fault."
It also doesn't mean suppressing your "bad" emotions and only letting the "good" ones come through. No...
Instead, it means, "This is my experience, and I can choose something different."
So much less drama.
Infinitely more productive.
Try it out today and let me know how it goes.
The Mystic Next Door
P.S. This is how I learned to finally deal with my emotions in a healthy way without a bunch of drama...
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