The Mystic's Message
The Mystic's Message
How can you NOT?!
A lot of people spend so much time trying to NOT...
...fall into their vices and self-sabotage
...have the flaws that they have
...be stuck where they are
Changing. Fixing. Fighting.
After all the time and energy they spend trying to NOT, there's not a lot left over for the things they actually want.
The truth is, it's really hard to NOT.
It creates a conundrum in the brain. Because even if you're trying to NOT- do something, be something, have something- your thoughts are still focused …
If only...
It goes by different names, but I call it, "If only."
No, it's not a party game like truth or dare.
It's a game people play every day of their lives. It goes something like this...
You are...
Dear one...
You are seen.
You are heard.
You matter.
You are safe.
You are loved.
Just wanted to be sure you knew...
Because it's important.
You're important.
I mean it.
Peace,
The Mystic Next Door
Curiosity killed the what?!
Curiosity is usually thought of as an innate quality. Either someone has it or they don't.
Yet we were all curious as kids- experiencing the world for the first time trying to make sense of this spectacular hallucination.
Some people just lost theirs along the way.
Maybe it wasn't safe to ask questions.
Maybe you got burned stepping outside the bounds of conventional wisdom.
Shamed for "getting it wrong." Ridiculed for saying something dumb or foolish.
Curiosity got set aside in favo…
The Anger Games, Part 4
Anger generates tremendous energy.
As an agent for change it's powerful.
Anger is also incredibly addictive.
The burst of energy motivates you to initiate change, but what you might not realize is what it took to build that energy up BEFORE the floodgates opened.
There were warning signs that you ignored or discounted, starting with mild irritants working their way toward frustration and eventually sparking into anger.
There were also the lies you told yourself...
...It's fine.
...I…
You might be right, but...
You might be right...
But if no one can hear you because you're...
- judging and criticizing
- making others wrong or
- making them feel stupid and "less than"
...did you actually accomplish anything?
Or did you just make yourself feel better for a minute because you got the right answer?
So is it more important to be right?
Or would you rather help people find a better truth and help yourself along the way?
How you answer this question changes everything...
Nick
The Mystic Next Door
Healthy or "Not sick?"
People use this word all time time.
An important word, to be sure...
But when I listen to them talk, this quote keeps running through my head...
“You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”
Which word?
Health.
It's weird because if you listen closely, you'll realize that 90% of the conversations are actually about illness.
And I've noticed that there is a huge misunderstanding that just because you're "not sick" somehow it means you must be healthy.
So …
Incomparable
They say that Comparison is the thief of joy.
And it's true!
Comparing yourself to others takes your eye OFF your unique contribution and places it on others. That's nice for them. For you? Not so much...
It's like taking a big ol' sack of your energy and just handing it over.
But if you look closely, you'll see that comparison isn't the real problem.
The thing that drains your energy is PERSONALIZING the comparison.
Because if you say, "That person is taller than me," it's no big deal…
A Nice Idea
"That seems like a nice idea. I'd love to do that...someday..."
Don't get me wrong. It's wonderful to let your mind wander and explore possibility.
But it's also important to recognize the difference between a "nice idea" and a commitment.
Maybe it's just the introvert in me, but going out on a Friday night is a nice idea...until I'm done with the week and all I want to do is cook a nice meal and relax on the couch...
Fortunately my friends know me well enough to allow me a little grace b…
How to Live Full Out
"Buy the ticket. Take the ride."
-Hunter S. Thompson
Buy the ticket. Take the ride.
Not the other way around.
When you buy the ticket, you're in. Until you do that, it's just a nice idea. Something you might do...someday...maybe...
You have to buy the ticket, and you pay for it with...
...your time
...your attention
...your effort
...and yes...
...your money.
Will it be worth it? You won't really know until you're on the other side. Even then, it might take you a little time to reali…